Goodbye 2015

2015 was tough, I changed my job, I moved back home, I lost my grandad to cancer and I had several health issues. But, I survived. I survived thanks to my friends. Actually, 'friends' is a bit of an understatement. They are my gems and they know who they are so I don't need to mention them by name. I made it through thanks to never ending support from my family, especially you mama.

I've decided to write resolutions that everyone could benefit from if implemented. So here goes... 

Focus on keeping what happened in 2015 in 2015. We all have a tendency to carry the pain and the bad memories because it’s better to feel bad than to feel nothing, but that only makes things worse.  Let all that has hurt you this year, go. Loosen your grip on what isn’t yours anymore. It was the most precious thing but it’s not anymore. It’s okay. That’s how life works.

Have a thicker skin with a warmer heart. Don’t be afraid of being loved again. Don’t be afraid of loving again. Don’t be afraid of saying NO and don’t be afraid of saying YES.

You expect a lot because you are willing to do that for others. Hate to break it to you honey but, that isn’t how everyone is. Don’t live your life thinking that people will be good to you because you’re good to them. 

Fix the mistakes you made in 2015. Apologize. Forgive. Forget. It happened, it’s a part of your life now. Accept it. Don’t be sorry for accepting your mistakes. Don’t be put down by people who don’t know what it takes to bow your head down and accept one’s mistakes. Be humbler than they expect you to ever be. 

Remember that most things aren't permanent. People aren’t permanent. This sorrow isn’t permanent. There is always another chance to fix your mistakes. There are always new years, you know? ;)

Do something this year that you’ve been thinking of doing for years. Learn how to play a guitar, to speak a new language, learn how to knit- whatever floats your boat. 

Don’t define yourself by all the bad things that happened to you, or bad things that you did in 2015. Don’t define yourself by everything that you regret doing in 2015. Define yourself by all the good things you’ve said in 2015. It’s not selfish to make yourself feel good about yourself. Trying to forget the bad things isn’t cowardice; it takes guts to do that. 

No matter how much unkindness you suffer. Don’t become them. The moment you reciprocate their hatred with hatred, it’s over, you’re one of them. 

Dearest friends, here's to wishing you all the very best for 2016. Stay safe and be kind to one another. 

Peace and love. 

Elle xx