The Art of an Apology
Two very simple words. Yet, two of the hardest to say. ''I'm Sorry''
We say the phrase very easily when for example, walking and accidentally bumping into someone. But when it is crucial for us to say it, we seem to hold back and choke on the words. The inability to apologize can ruin all of our relationships.
So why don't we apologize?
Anger - Sometimes you are so angry that you don't even realise you are wrong and that you must apoligize for something you have said or done.
Embarrassment - Ok so you've screwed up somewhere. It might be difficult to talk about it to the person you have let down or hurt. It makes you feel silly, so you'd rather not face the problem and just pretend it didn't happen.
The biggest problem of all! - PRIDE
You don't want to admit its your fault. You find it hard to admit you are wrong as your pride gets in the way.
When should we apologize?
Quickly! An apology should never be delayed, this way both parties can forget it ever happened and move on.
Even when its not your fault. No one likes apologizing, further more if its not entirely his/her fault. However you can always find at least 1 thing, no matter how small, that you could have handled better. Also, if you go first, the other person might pluck up the courage to apologize too.Don’t let pride stop you from being the bigger person and taking the initiative.
Even when you haven't been caught. An adult owns up to his mistakes and offenses whether or not he thinks he will be held accountable.
Take full responsibilty for what you have done
Show you know what you did wrong and the weight of your mistake.
Pledge to behave better in the future.
Move on.
Until next time
Love,
Elle x
We say the phrase very easily when for example, walking and accidentally bumping into someone. But when it is crucial for us to say it, we seem to hold back and choke on the words. The inability to apologize can ruin all of our relationships.
So why don't we apologize?
Anger - Sometimes you are so angry that you don't even realise you are wrong and that you must apoligize for something you have said or done.
Embarrassment - Ok so you've screwed up somewhere. It might be difficult to talk about it to the person you have let down or hurt. It makes you feel silly, so you'd rather not face the problem and just pretend it didn't happen.
The biggest problem of all! - PRIDE
You don't want to admit its your fault. You find it hard to admit you are wrong as your pride gets in the way.
When should we apologize?
Quickly! An apology should never be delayed, this way both parties can forget it ever happened and move on.
Even when its not your fault. No one likes apologizing, further more if its not entirely his/her fault. However you can always find at least 1 thing, no matter how small, that you could have handled better. Also, if you go first, the other person might pluck up the courage to apologize too.Don’t let pride stop you from being the bigger person and taking the initiative.
Even when you haven't been caught. An adult owns up to his mistakes and offenses whether or not he thinks he will be held accountable.
Quick points to remember when apologizing:
Take full responsibilty for what you have done
Show you know what you did wrong and the weight of your mistake.
Pledge to behave better in the future.
Move on.
Until next time
Love,
Elle x
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